"The emotional blackmail and shunning from family in particular worked on him."
ok time for my 2 cents. This is exactly what is happening to us right now. We have been physically fading for almost 2 years and mentally about 4 years. Both sides of our in families are badgering us about returning to Jehovah. My husband is convinced it would be easier to just go back here and there rather than continue to "hurt" and stress them out. I don't agree because I know that won't be good enough. It disheartening to realized both sides of our brainwashed cult-ed families only love us conditionally. I never realized when we were the perfect cult couple that they never loved us for us.